SELFISHNESS

Are we humans instinctively co-operative or are we naturally selfish? This thought is creeping in my mind since long now. I think may be from my childhood. The exact meaning of “Selfishness” is concern with one’s own interests. This does not include a moral evaluation. It does not tell us whether the concern with one’s own interests is good or evil. That is for the individual to decide, whether his decision affects other people.

                                 Our seniors use to say”Progress in your life.  Wherever you go, try to reach at the top”. Isn’t that selfishness? People always want to know your secret to success. If you don’t disclose your secret, people around tag you as a selfish person. I don’t think that is selfishness of you. It is your way of preserving your source. That is “Self-preservation”, not “Selfishness”. Personally I believe that it is ok to strive for your own success, but you have to make sure that you don’t step on other’s foot.

                                 One more thought come to my mind. I always heard this from one of my closed ones that if she had known earlier that her son will go far away to settle in life, she would not allow him to go for higher studies, so that he will stay with her always. So here, who is selfish the mother or the son? I know it’s the mother’s love for her son, but isn’t it ok for him to fulfill his dreams, to become successful and to enjoy his life. Does that mean he is selfish? I think if you are not taking care of your responsibility, then you are selfish. But if you are happy and that does not affect people around you, then it’s not selfishness. Recently I watched one movie ”Yeh Jawani Hai Deewani”. For people it is just an entertainment movie. After watching this movie I am sure no one especially our parents ever thought for a single second, what the film try to teach. In the movie father allowed his son to live his life in his own terms which he never be able to do in his own life. The problem is that society has misinterpreted selfishness as being “Greediness”. Selfishness is unavoidable, but it does not imply greed. It simply means looking for your own self-interest. It is a request to all the parents to change their mindset. They should broaden their thoughts and allow their children to live their life on their own terms.

                                          I believe that if you are happy from inside, then only you can be able to make happy others. Being happy is not selfishness, its necessity.

!!! Live the Life Fullest!!!